Private Thoughts and Imaginations...

Wednesday, February 08, 2006

Why is it so hard ???

i hated myself today... i've hurt someone's feelings, i had to, but what that person doesn't know, is that i was even more hurt...

why is it so hard to say NO... why isn't there a nicer way to refuse or reject things, a way that would never make us go through pain... the problem is that we sometimes can't explain... not becuase we're not given the chance, but because we know we're just going to make things worse...

i feel horrible, and yet, i still have to wear a smile on my face, and act as if nothing happened... as if my life hasn't changed...

it's amazing how two letters can cause such damage... how they can simply ruin someone's life, and take his dreams away....

someone once said:
knowing that there is worse pain doesn't make present pain hurt any less.


i wonder if we are ever going to understand the wisdom pain holds, or the message it has... i just hope that one day i will... i hope this day would come soon...

4 Comments:

  • At Friday, February 10, 2006 8:31:00 PM , Blogger NAR said...

    Even though your post does not include details, I would like to share two things. First, if I have to say "No" I try to make the other understand my reasons and I try to offer an alternative compromise. Here honesty if key. Second, letters are very bad for discussing things. They are most likely read with the emotional spin the reader is imagining. Nothing is better than a face to face discussion when tensions are high. Letters do not carry the tone of voice so important for interpreting the meaning of words. For example, I can write “hello” and mean “nice to see you” and it could be read “hello” as in “do you even listen to what I say!”

     
  • At Friday, February 10, 2006 11:59:00 PM , Blogger Rain Drop said...

    sometimes it's better not to know the real reasons, coz knowing them would hurt more than not knowing...

    letters can be a better choice when u know u don't have enough strength to say what u have to say, when ur afraid that the other part might see that ur weak, that u might change ur mind, that there is still hope... when u write a letter, they can never tell, and they'll never see the pain in ur eyes...

    i know that i might not be right, but i did what i felt is right...

    thanx for passing by :) it's always nice to have a second opinion...

     
  • At Sunday, February 19, 2006 10:06:00 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    "الضرورة تبيح المحظورات"
    "الغاية تبرر الوسيلة"
    "وجع ساعه ولا وجع كل ساعه"
    i guess u have to say no as soon as u can in this case ! but in a polite and nice way... try to explain ur reasons if u can...

     
  • At Friday, February 24, 2006 3:58:00 PM , Blogger rowdyrascal said...

    We cannot afford to please all people at all times. Yes as u say it is difficult to say 'no.' But wldn't it have been tougher on us if we hadn't said the same.
    We have our limitations and the ability to say NO is a gift, i'd say. Not many have the know-how nor the guts to say NO.

    It is definitely better to say no and suffer a bit rather than not to say and suffer a life-time or at least a long time.

     

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