Nobody is that PERFECT!
It's annoying, that "perfect image" people create in their minds about you... that you're flawless, you can never hurt anyone, you're over smart you could never do something stupid, and that you're an angel on earth! but what annoys me most, is when you try to convince them that you too are an ordinary normal human being, with lots of flaws and mistakes... it's like they can't really hear what you're saying, they donno what you're talking about, they don't want to see it, or in other words, they don't want to believe it...
The funny part is when they keep on giving you excuses for your acts and mistakes, while others are being punished and judged for doing something much less horrible...
and by the way, being a doctor or an engineer or whatever doesn't mean that you're smarter or better than the rest, and it definitely doesn't mean that you know more than everyone else... simply because no one knows "everything" about "everything"!
Nobody is that perfect, and am not that perefect either! and i, for sure, can't fix everything!!! o it's not my problem if you can't deal with it!
posted by Rain Drop @ 10/28/2006 07:42:00 PM
21 Comments:
At Sunday, October 29, 2006 3:07:00 PM ,
Dr MHQ said...
Salam
I just read it and had this idea ... Am I really that bad ???? I mean people have never used that "Perfect Image" theory with me !!!
kidding ... just wanted to drop a comment ;)
see ya
At Sunday, October 29, 2006 6:09:00 PM ,
Anonymous said...
" being a doctor or an engineer or whatever doesn't mean that you're smarter or better than the rest " OBJECTION you Honor that is simply impossible un-logic !!! Ana ata7afaz 3ala hathehe al 3ebara !!!!!!
Well in my opinion that remnded me of a post i wrote long time ago " why do I like you " .......
http://hotice130.blogspot.com/2006/01/why-do-i-like-you_20.html
The perfect image some ppl draw for you in their mind maybe it is a reflection to their perception about u ........ in my post i talked about beutiful things .... but imagine how much respect they carry for you even for your bad habbits ..... I dont think its about pefection , its about how much they like you ....... and ofcourse it should be relative , neither leaning to any of the extremes !
men wein hai el rasmeh , its nice :)
CheeerZ!
At Sunday, October 29, 2006 9:32:00 PM ,
Tala said...
first of all, i liked the picture, it immediately reminded me of Clint Eastwood song by Gorillaz, don't ask me why
didn't you ever by any chance tell yourself, that if that person was in my shoes he/she would have reacted in a certain manner? what makes you so sure?
Well, i do that a lot, and sometimes first impressions, YOUR way of approaching people let you assume that a person belongs to some category which could be tooooo wrong especially when we think too highly of one person.
wa min huna tabda2 al sadamaaat.
i always remind myself that no matter how dear who is infront of me, he/she is human o mish munzal min 3ind rabna! o mish kulshi bi7kee sa7. because most of the time we "make believe" we don't see truth and facts, we make up characteristics and believe it o you know the rest of the story.. and excuses come up.
and after disappointments, you tell yourself; why haven't i listened to what was screaming inside me telling me listen, look, see, this is not what you think it is. WAKE UP
At Monday, October 30, 2006 1:31:00 AM ,
Rain Drop said...
dr_mhq: i wish if all people were as bad as u ;) the world would turn into a heaven :) thanx for passing by :D
Dar: lol, face it! are u trying to convince me that being a doctor or whatever is what makes u a better person??? i had a friend who got 97.3 bel tawjihi, her rank was 30 smth 3al mamlakeh, and she could easily have studied medicine in the JU, she decided to study english litrature instead :) and i must admit that she's nearly better than me in everything :)
btw, respect is smth, and having others expecting you to be able to fix everything in the house and be a calculus master just coz ur an engineer, is smth else ;) i hope that i made the idea clear...
i liked ur post :) u should start re-writing about such topics again ;)
this pic is "ser el mehneh" ;) not gonna tell u :D
Tala: isn't this annoying!!! and it gets more annoying when ppl try to make u a model for others! i just hate it :)
At Monday, October 30, 2006 2:08:00 PM ,
Anonymous said...
Well lets say releatively eno who is not involved in med school his abilitis start to decline shay2an fa shay2an ma3 moroor al waqt ! h3 o el ba2i 3endek
And I didn got that from yr post ... eno " ppl expect you to do something cuz u r something " .... i got it as i said , and in this case it is not yr fault 5aleehom yfakro elli bedhom eyah
Inshallah i will bs bedha moood
Bellah 3aleiki u draw that pic ?
CheeerZ!
At Monday, October 30, 2006 11:31:00 PM ,
Rain Drop said...
hehehe, bokra u'll graduate, and u'll find out inno mesh kol doctor doctor befham :)
i'll give u the link to that pic later ;)
At Tuesday, October 31, 2006 10:42:00 AM ,
Anonymous said...
hey rain drop,
I think sometimes that perfect image people create about you basically comes from the fact that they see something special in you they can't find in somebody else, and yeah it's annoying to think you're flawless but sometimes you gotta excuse them.
Nice pic :)
At Wednesday, November 01, 2006 9:04:00 PM ,
Anonymous said...
So people think you are flawless, and you DON'T like this?
wow, I wished I had your problems. ha ha.
You WANT people to think you are ordinary and not exceptional?
This seems contradictory to the post you had a while ago where you were pondering the hopelessness of insignificance of life.
If people think you are flawless, what are you worried about. Even if you can't fix everything, it won't matter to them, because they think you're flawless anyway. Right?
At Wednesday, November 01, 2006 9:30:00 PM ,
Tala said...
Sadiqi
Hi! haven't you ever stood infront of someone and telling yourself: " if only you know, im not whom you think i am" or " i can't be whom you expect me to be"??
maybe if people think that you are flawless, they won't give you excuses but would expect more of you. but what happens if you didn't follow up. what if who you couldn't follow up with means so much to you???
give your strength away or disappoint whom you care about.
what do you think?
At Wednesday, November 01, 2006 9:36:00 PM ,
Abed. Hamdan said...
walla this is on my mind long time ago! I have no idea when did people get the idea that im a grown up and I can take care of the whole world when I was 15 yrs old!
sometimes people expecting you to fix everything, but in fact you are the one who need to be fixed and being taken care of! this is my everyday problem!
the Mr.Perfect image has a negative reaction on my everyday life..!
People have no idea about the pain we gone through to become "successful"
At Wednesday, November 01, 2006 9:42:00 PM ,
Abed. Hamdan said...
Dar
wrong wrong ideas!!! being doctor and Engineer doesn't indicate being smarter and doesn't imply that you will become successful in your future life!
this is our problem in the middle east!! '3alaat!!
I know many Engineers who knows nothing about the ABC of engineering, and they all carry a BA degree. Worse yet, I've met many PhD carriers at my university (and other universities) who doesn't know basic math !!
to survive as an Engineering student at JUST, for example, you only have to be good in memorizing!! 7efez!! It's nothing different that studying biology!!
It's not that hard to get a degree, ok it's not very easy; It needs working hard! but this have nothing to do with being successful.
My unlce doesn't have a tawjeehi degree, and he's a multi-millionare ! living in sacramento/californian, and he has many Gaz stations. He is one of the smartest people I've ever met! He went to America alone when he was 18 yrs old, without any support of anybody he did miracles, alone!
At Thursday, November 02, 2006 3:44:00 PM ,
Anonymous said...
Man , take it easy , I am jk !
CheeerZ!
At Thursday, November 02, 2006 5:16:00 PM ,
Rain Drop said...
Razan :D
Thanx, I totally agree with all what you’ve said :) , but there is a limit for everything ;) I had to let this “out”
Sadiki
It’s nice to be treated in a different way, to be treated with extra respect, to be more liked or loved than the rest, to be "special", but when it comes to people expecting you to be smarter than everyone else, when your doctors start giving you tasks that takes you ages to accomplish, and you could no more find a couple of hours to sleep, while others are given something silly that could be done in less than a couple of hours, and when people keep on telling their kids “Look at her! Why can’t you just be like her????” that’s when I hate it :)
There is a huge difference between who you are deep inside, and what people actually see… yes, I don’t want to be someone with no importance or significant value, I don’t want to waste my life, and I badly want to accomplish something in it… but I still want to be loved and liked for who I really am, and not for the picture others have in their minds of me… simply because it’s not true :)
As Tala said, it really hurts when someone who means a lot to you expects you to be something, and in the end finds out that you’re not the same person he/she had in mind… it hurts when everyone believes that you could do something, and deep inside, you know you absolutely have no idea of how it’s going to be done…
If you want to be in my shoes, then be my guest ;)
Tala, u already know how I think ;)
Abed. Hamdan
I laughed when I read this sentence “sometimes people expecting you to fix everything, but in fact you are the one who need to be fixed and being taken care of!” it’s sort of very true ;)
Dar: looooooool, testahal ;)
At Thursday, November 02, 2006 10:17:00 PM ,
Anonymous said...
Rain Drop,
I understand more your point of view.
In this, I see the irony. The pain you must feel when a mother chastises her daughter for not being like you. When in fact the daughter is EXACTLY like you. You both are receiving negative feedback from the people you are working hardest to please.
Yes, it is negative feedback. Because although you are more capable than most, you are unsure of the feedback you will receive from adhering to your true identity.
I suggest to you though that this comes from a lack of self-confidence, rather than your inability to perform.
This is evidenced by the fact that you fear other people's opinion of you, more than you are confident of your own ability and identity. This is unrealistic, or otherwise stated -- you will never be at peace if you are untrue to yourself.
We have a saying, "the tree's branches do not grow in order to shade your eyes.". The tree's leaves grow as they grow. You should allow yourself to be as you are.
Your soul is bright and powerful, but it is not right for it to be altered solely to suit other people's lives.
At Thursday, November 02, 2006 10:36:00 PM ,
Abed. Hamdan said...
Dar:
el moshkele ya zalame ana shofet nas b jam3etna, wade3hom be7azzen ! ba3ref shabab mo3addelhom fl 80s, w befhamoosh wain Allah 7atethom, w fee dacatreh 3enna fl Engineering, allah la eywarjeek..akeed waseltak el sam3at!! yazalame benda5el sandwiches 3al mo7adarat, w bnel3ab Need4Speeds fl labs, !! 2albeenha mas5ara! msh kol el lectures :)
At Tuesday, November 07, 2006 6:48:00 PM ,
Anonymous said...
Nobody is perfect! Enough said
Rain Drop, I dropped by because I liked you opnions on harrasment issue in egypt. Looks like I'm going to be a follower of this blog too.
At Wednesday, November 08, 2006 1:40:00 PM ,
rowdyrascal said...
Rain all i have to say is that it is a beautiful post. Dont be bothered by what others make of u. Those who build pedestals know to destroy it and build it for somebody else in seconds.
It is good that u realise who u r. The view point of others's is their problem.
From what i make out -- it seems very evident that people have a tendency to look up to u.
U must be one of the luckier ones and not many enjoy ur status whatever they do in life.
At Thursday, November 09, 2006 8:37:00 PM ,
Rain Drop said...
sadiki :)
well, actually the daughter isn't "exactly" like me ;) she wouldn't have been compared to me if she was! but i still don't want to be in her shoes...
it might be a negative feed back, but the truth is, it made me discover things about me that i didn't know... and it made me do stuff that i never imagined am capable of doing... i hate it, but i can't deny that it brought the best out of me :) and for that, am thankful.
i don't call this a "lack of self-confidence", simply because i know it isn't :) i am being who i am, but people can only notice a part of me... for a reason, they can't "see" the rest...
but you're right,,, i sometimes do things to please others, and not because i want to do it...
thanks for the nice comment :)
Qwaider قويدر:
thanks for passing by:D and welcome to my blog;)
rowdyrascal :)
thank u very much for your sweet words :)
i don't consider myself one of the luckier ones, when God gives someone something extra, he takes away something else :)
we're all blessed in a way or another, but we keep on counting what we don't have and notice what we're not, instead of counting our blessings :)
learning how to be satisfied with who you are, with what you are, and with what you have is one of the hardest lessons a human being will ever have to learn :) am still learning ;)
At Thursday, November 16, 2006 11:52:00 AM ,
rowdyrascal said...
Correct and also wanted to share a phrase that i read recently.
U r never really as good as they say ur nor as bad as they say ur.
Well the truth in a nutshell.
How r u ?
How was ur trip to AQUABA?
At Thursday, November 16, 2006 11:26:00 PM ,
Rain Drop said...
LOL rowdyrascal :)
i do believe in that too ;)
i guess am doing fine :) (el 7amdella)
i'll post some pictures about Aqaba soon :) it was a nice trip!
thanks for asking about me :) it means a lot to me :) you're a real good friend ;) and am lucky to have u :D
At Friday, December 22, 2006 4:12:00 PM ,
Ahmad said...
well... thats right... no body is perfect but Allah. thats known.... but they might mean that u r a very good person for some situation or behaviour.... u should thank them as i guess for that idea instead of being "annoyed" and u should try to convince them that u r not a perfect....its nice feeling if people has a bright image about us.
i would feel shy if some one has that picture about me...
about the "funny part" i guess its not funny ! when u like some one u dont c his mistakes....as it is when teacher passes smart students mistakes...i guess every body of us should be happy to have a bright picture.
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